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Scenario

When long-term couples optimize away their spontaneity

My partner and I have been together eight years and somewhere along the way we stopped being weird together — all our quirky rituals and private jokes have been replaced by efficient routines. We both feel it but when we try to be spontaneous it feels forced, and I'm worried we've optimized the playfulness out of our relationship.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Partners who have streamlined their life together find that efficiency has gradually eroded the delightful unpredictability that once nourished their bond.

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