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Scenario

When couples have different sleep patterns and nighttime becomes isolating

My partner and I have completely different relationships with nighttime — they fall asleep instantly while I lie awake for hours thinking, and we've stopped talking about anything real before bed because they're already mentally checked out while I'm just getting started processing the day. We used to stay up talking and now bedtime feels like this lonely divide between us where I'm left alone with all my thoughts.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are living parallel night experiences instead of finding ways to honor both their needs while staying connected.

Your guide for this
Nas
Nas works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Night — the relationship with darkness?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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