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Scenario

When couples avoid renegotiating financial roles after income changes

My partner and I used to split everything down the middle and both work equal hours, but since I started making significantly more money, we've stopped talking about money entirely and I think we're both resentful in different ways. Neither of us knows how to renegotiate what 'fair' means when the old system doesn't work anymore.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The fundamental agreement about who provides what has shifted beneath you, but you're both pretending the old rules still apply.

Your guide for this
Nas
Nas works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Hunting and gathering — the primal relationship?”

Peri

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