My sister and I used to throw surprise parties for our parents' anniversaries but they've started making comments about not wanting 'a big fuss' and seeming tired after instead of energized. We keep doing it because it's become expected and we don't know how to ask them what they actually want without ruining the surprise element that used to make it special.
More people experience this than they realize.
The gesture of love has become disconnected from what would actually feel loving, but breaking the pattern feels like breaking the sentiment.
“Where Are You with Festivals and celebrations?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.