My spouse says they miss my spontaneous side, but every time I try to be spontaneous they point out all the things I haven't thought through or the ways it might go wrong. I've started to feel like they want me to be spontaneous in theory but not in practice, and now I'm second-guessing every impulse I have and both of us are frustrated but talking past each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're caught in a dynamic where spontaneity is simultaneously desired and sabotaged, leaving both people confused about what the other actually wants.
“Where Are You with Spontaneity?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.