Our family has always done this elaborate Christmas morning tradition with games, riddles, and treasure hunts that my mom created when we were kids, but now that she's gone my siblings and I can't agree on whether to keep doing it or let it die with her. Some of us feel like we're dishonoring her memory by changing anything, others think continuing without her feels hollow, and we're all just awkwardly avoiding the topic while December gets closer.
More people experience this than they realize.
The death of a tradition's creator has left the family paralyzed between preservation and transformation, unable to grieve both the person and the ritual together.
“Where Are You with Ritual play and sacred games?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.