Our family used to have this beautiful tradition of everyone coming together each fall to help my mom with her massive flower garden cleanup, but since dad died two years ago, we've all been tiptoeing around whether to keep doing it or if it's too painful for her. None of us wants to bring it up directly, so we just keep making vague offers to 'help with yard work' while the garden slowly becomes overwhelming for her alone.
More people experience this than they realize.
They're paralyzed between honoring a meaningful tradition and protecting each other from potential grief.
“Where Are You with Gardening and growing things?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.