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Scenario

When friends going through divorce start competing instead of supporting

My best friend and I both left our marriages within six months of each other and we thought having each other would make the divorce process easier, but instead we keep comparing everything - who got a better lawyer, whose ex is being more difficult, who's adjusting better - and it's starting to poison our friendship when we need each other most.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Shared circumstances can breed comparison instead of compassion when two people use each other's pain as a measure of their own progress.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with EMDR and trauma processing?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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