My best friend and I both left our marriages within six months of each other and we thought having each other would make the divorce process easier, but instead we keep comparing everything - who got a better lawyer, whose ex is being more difficult, who's adjusting better - and it's starting to poison our friendship when we need each other most.
More people experience this than they realize.
Shared circumstances can breed comparison instead of compassion when two people use each other's pain as a measure of their own progress.
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If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.