My brother and I are both dealing with our father's death six months ago and we keep having these intense arguments about his memory — what kind of person he really was, what his legacy should be — and I'm starting to realize we might have grieved different versions of the same man our whole lives.
More people experience this than they realize.
The psychological work of grieving reveals that family members may be mourning fundamentally different relationships with the same person.
“Where Are You with Grief as psychological process?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.