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Scenario

When siblings struggle to apply polyvagal theory to inherited family patterns

My brother and I are both trying to break family patterns of explosive anger using polyvagal principles, but when one of us gets activated the other either tries to 'fix' it with breathing techniques or just shuts down completely. We can talk about the theory but we can't seem to actually co-regulate when it matters and our old patterns feel stronger than our new understanding.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Intellectual knowledge of nervous system regulation cannot easily override deeply embedded relational patterns activated in family systems.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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“Where Are You with Polyvagal theory in practice?”

Peri

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