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When siblings disagree on how to handle difficult parents

My brother and I are both trying to figure out how to have a relationship with our aging parents who were emotionally neglectful, and we have completely opposite approaches — he wants to set firm boundaries and I keep trying to fix things — and it's creating tension between us too.

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Two people's different strategies for protecting themselves from past harm are preventing them from supporting each other in present challenges.

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