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Scenario

When siblings pursue EMDR for shared trauma at different paces

My brother and I both decided to do EMDR for the childhood abuse we experienced together, but we're having completely different experiences in therapy and he keeps wanting to process stuff with me that I'm not ready to talk about yet, and I feel guilty because isn't this supposed to be helping us finally deal with what happened?

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Shared trauma creates the illusion that healing should happen in sync, but individual nervous systems process at their own pace regardless of family bonds.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with EMDR and trauma processing?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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