My brother and I both decided to do EMDR for the childhood abuse we experienced together, but we're having completely different experiences in therapy and he keeps wanting to process stuff with me that I'm not ready to talk about yet, and I feel guilty because isn't this supposed to be helping us finally deal with what happened?
More people experience this than they realize.
Shared trauma creates the illusion that healing should happen in sync, but individual nervous systems process at their own pace regardless of family bonds.
“Where Are You with EMDR and trauma processing?”
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