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Scenario

When siblings with similar attachment wounds become too enmeshed

My brother and I both have anxious attachment from our childhood and we've become really close as adults, but lately I'm noticing we're almost too enmeshed — we check in constantly, get anxious when the other doesn't respond quickly, and I think we might be recreating some unhealthy patterns even though it feels like love.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Shared attachment wounds can create a false intimacy that feels healing but actually reinforces the original insecurity patterns.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Attachment in adult relationships?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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