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When siblings with similar attachment wounds become too enmeshed

My brother and I both have anxious attachment from our childhood and we've become really close as adults, but lately I'm noticing we're almost too enmeshed — we check in constantly, get anxious when the other doesn't respond quickly, and I think we might be recreating some unhealthy patterns even though it feels like love.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Shared attachment wounds can create a false intimacy that feels healing but actually reinforces the original insecurity patterns.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Attachment in adult relationships?”

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