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Scenario

When family language learning reveals different abilities and creates distance

My brother and I have been trying to learn our grandmother's language together since she died last year, but he picks it up so much faster than I do that our study sessions have become painful for me. I feel like I'm holding him back and he feels like he has to slow down for me, and now we're both avoiding the language altogether when it was supposed to connect us to her memory.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Siblings attempting to honor ancestral connection through shared learning encounter the discomfort of unequal aptitude and its threat to intimacy.

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Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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