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Scenario

How to navigate family shadow work when siblings trigger each other

My brother and I started exploring our family trauma together after our dad died, thinking it would help us heal and get closer, but instead we keep projecting our unresolved anger about childhood onto each other during these conversations. Every time we try to process what happened to us growing up, one of us ends up triggered and acting out the very dynamics we're trying to understand, and then we both shut down for weeks.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The shadow work itself becomes the arena where unconscious family dynamics replay, creating the very wounds you're trying to heal.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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Peri

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