My dad and I have been trying to have deeper conversations since my mom died last year, but we keep hitting this wall where we both shut down emotionally at the same time and then we're just two people sitting in silence, neither of us knowing how to bridge the gap. We want to be there for each other but we grieve so differently and I think we're both afraid of saying the wrong thing.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are caught in parallel emotional withdrawal, each waiting for the other to create the safety they both need.
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