My husband and I are both learning about our own personality disorders in couples therapy, but the more we understand about attachment styles and trauma responses, the more we realize we chose each other specifically because our dysfunctions fit together perfectly, and now we don't know if we're healing our relationship or just becoming more sophisticated about managing our incompatibility.
More people experience this than they realize.
Increased self-awareness can paradoxically create new forms of distance when partners realize their attraction was based on unconscious patterns rather than genuine compatibility.
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