My husband and I have been doing really well individually - he's found flow in his new role and I'm finally in a creative space that energizes me - but somehow our relationship feels flat now that we're not bonding over shared struggles. We used to connect by processing challenges together, and now that we're both in good places we don't know how to share joy or maintain intimacy around our separate successes without it feeling performative.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people discover that individual flourishing can paradoxically create distance when their primary bonding pattern was built around mutual support through difficulty.
“Where Are You with Positive psychology — strengths flow flourishing?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.