My husband struggles with what seems like nafs al-ammara in his explosive anger and I keep oscillating between nafs al-lawwama in my guilt about not being patient enough with him and nafs al-ammara in my resentment about having to manage his emotions and neither of us knows how to break this cycle.
More people experience this than they realize.
Partners are caught in a dynamic where one person's uncontrolled impulses consistently activate the other's internal conflict between self-blame and justified anger.
“Where Are You with Islamic psychology — nafs and spiritual wellbeing?”
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