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Scenario

When learning partnerships become performance-oriented relationships

My learning partner and I have been meeting weekly for two years to work through books and ideas together, but lately we've realized that our whole friendship has become about optimizing ourselves and we can't have a conversation that isn't about some framework or insight, and I'm wondering if we've turned genuine inquiry into another form of productivity culture.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people dedicated to shared intellectual growth discover that their relationship has become instrumentalized, serving optimization rather than authentic understanding.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Self-directed learning as identity?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.