My mom and I are both dealing with my dad's dementia but we have completely different ideas about how much help he needs and when to step in. She wants to preserve his independence at all costs and I'm terrified something bad will happen, so we end up fighting about every decision instead of actually helping him.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people loving the same person can create parallel forms of protection that work against each other rather than together.
“Where Are You with Grief as psychological process?”
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