My mom and I are both perfectionists and we're trying to clean out my late father's house together but we keep getting paralyzed by different versions of 'doing it right' and then snapping at each other when nothing gets done. We both want to honor his memory but our grief and our need for control are making us impossible to work with.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are discovering that shared trauma reveals incompatible coping mechanisms, creating secondary conflict during an already difficult process.
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