My mom and I are both perfectionists dealing with aging parents (her mother, my grandmother) and we keep criticizing each other's approach to caregiving decisions even though we both want what's best. We can't seem to have a conversation about Grandma's care without it turning into judgment about who's doing enough or doing it right.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people sharing responsibility are using their shared wound—perfectionism—as a weapon against each other instead of recognizing it as common ground.
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