My mom and I have been trying to plan my dad's memorial service for three weeks and we keep getting stuck in these loops where she wants to honor his formal side and I want to celebrate the playful person he was with us, and neither of us knows how to say that we're also just scared of getting this wrong. Every conversation ends with one of us crying and the other one shutting down.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are discovering that their separate relationships to the deceased create competing needs for how to memorialize, while their shared grief makes direct communication about these differences nearly impossible.
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