My partner and I are both academics who've built our identities around being 'the smart ones' but we keep getting into these brutal arguments where we use our intelligence as weapons against each other, and I'm starting to wonder if our relationship to being smart is actually making us worse partners. We can't seem to have a disagreement without it turning into a competition over who's more logical or articulate.
More people experience this than they realize.
Intelligence as identity becomes intelligence as armor, preventing the vulnerability necessary for genuine intimacy.
“Where Are You with Intelligence — theories myths and measurement?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.