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Scenario

When couples trigger each other's inner child wounds during healing

My partner and I are both doing inner child work with different therapists and we keep triggering each other's wounded parts during normal conversations — like when they get that small voice I want to rescue them but my therapist says that's my own abandonment wound, and when I shut down they try to fix it which makes me feel more like a burden. We don't know how to be in healing together without constantly stepping on each other's tender spots.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people attempting simultaneous inner child healing are inadvertently activating each other's core wounds through their instinctive responses to pain.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Inner child work and reparenting?”

Peri

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