Periagoge
Scenario

When couples are both in therapy but keep repeating the same patterns

My partner and I are both in therapy working on our attachment stuff but we keep having the same fight about space and closeness — I'm trying to be less anxious and they're trying to be less avoidant but somehow we just end up acting out the exact patterns we're supposed to be healing.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people's healing journeys are colliding rather than supporting each other, creating the very dynamics they're individually trying to resolve.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Parts work and Internal Family Systems?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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