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When couples use professional skills to avoid emotional intimacy

My partner and I are both therapists and we've been trying to work through our own relationship issues using our training but we keep slipping into therapist mode with each other instead of just being partners, and it's creating this weird professional distance when we most need intimacy.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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Two people are using their expertise as a defense against the vulnerability required for genuine connection.

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