Periagoge
Scenario

When couples with complex trauma trigger each other's survival responses

My partner and I are both trauma survivors and we trigger each other in ways that feel impossible to map — their shutdown makes me panic about abandonment and my hypervigilance makes them feel surveilled and we keep cycling through the same fights without getting anywhere.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two nervous systems shaped by chronic early harm are attempting intimacy while their protective mechanisms actively work against connection.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Complex trauma — C-PTSD?”

Peri

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