My partner and I are both trauma survivors and we trigger each other in ways that feel impossible to map — their shutdown makes me panic about abandonment and my hypervigilance makes them feel surveilled and we keep cycling through the same fights without getting anywhere.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two nervous systems shaped by chronic early harm are attempting intimacy while their protective mechanisms actively work against connection.
“Where Are You with Complex trauma — C-PTSD?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.