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Scenario

When couples use psychoanalytic theory to heal together but trigger each other's defenses

My partner and I both came from families with narcissistic parents and we've been using object relations theory to understand our attachment patterns, but now we're realizing we're both projecting our mother wounds onto each other and every interpretation feels like an attack or abandonment and I don't know how to work through this together without making it worse.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people attempting mutual psychological understanding through analytic frameworks are inadvertently recreating the very relational dynamics they're trying to heal.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Psychoanalytic frameworks for self-understanding?”

Peri

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