My partner and I both got really into MBTI and Enneagram about a year ago and we thought understanding our types would help us communicate better, but now we just use them as weapons — I'm always 'too emotional' because I'm a 4, they're always 'logical' because they're a thinking type, and we've somehow made our actual problems harder to talk about.
More people experience this than they realize.
The frameworks meant to create understanding have become sophisticated ways to justify existing patterns and avoid the vulnerability of actual change.
“Where Are You with Personality frameworks — Big Five MBTI Enneagram?”
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