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Scenario

When couples try to help each other identify cognitive distortions but create new anxiety

My partner and I both have histories of depression and we've been trying to help each other catch catastrophic thinking patterns, but I'm realizing we might be making each other more hypervigilant about our thoughts in a way that's creating new anxiety. We'll point out each other's distortions but then spiral into meta-worry about whether we're thinking 'correctly' enough.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people attempting mutual cognitive support are inadvertently generating secondary distortions about the process of thinking itself.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Cognitive distortions — identification and change?”

Peri

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