My partner and I have been studying attachment theory together because we both know we have issues from childhood, but every time we try to talk about our patterns we end up recreating them in real time — I get anxiously pursuing when he withdraws, he gets more avoidant when I need reassurance, and we can't seem to step outside the cycle even though we intellectually understand what's happening.
More people experience this than they realize.
Knowledge of attachment dynamics doesn't automatically prevent their activation, especially when both partners' nervous systems are already engaged.
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Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.