My partner and I have been trying to cultivate virtue through daily study and reflection together—reading classical texts, discussing moral principles—but we keep getting into arguments about whose interpretation is 'more correct' or who's actually applying the teachings better in real life. We both genuinely want to grow but somehow our shared practice has become competitive rather than collaborative.
More people experience this than they realize.
The ego's need to be right corrupts what should be a humble, shared inquiry into moral development.
“Where Are You with Confucian self-cultivation through learning?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.