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Scenario

When couples use parts work to avoid emotional intimacy

My partner and I have both been doing IFS work individually for over a year and we thought it would help us understand each other better, but now we're constantly analyzing each other's parts instead of just being together and I think we're creating more distance than intimacy.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The tools meant to deepen self-awareness are being used as protective mechanisms against genuine vulnerability with each other.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Parts work and Internal Family Systems?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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