My partner and I have both been doing IFS work individually for over a year and we thought it would help us understand each other better, but now we're constantly analyzing each other's parts instead of just being together and I think we're creating more distance than intimacy.
More people experience this than they realize.
The tools meant to deepen self-awareness are being used as protective mechanisms against genuine vulnerability with each other.
“Where Are You with Parts work and Internal Family Systems?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.