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Scenario

When couples have opposite attachment needs during conflict

My partner and I keep having the same fight about space and closeness — I need more connection and reassurance when I'm stressed, they need more independence and time to process, and we're both getting triggered by what feels like rejection but is probably just different attachment styles colliding.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are caught in a cycle where their different attachment strategies for managing emotional safety are inadvertently threatening each other's sense of security.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Attachment in adult relationships?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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