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Scenario

When close friends discover fundamental incompatibilities

My roommate and I have been best friends for years but living together during the pandemic showed us that we have completely different nervous systems — she needs constant stimulation and social contact and I need quiet and routine. We love each other but we're making each other miserable and we don't know if friendship can survive this kind of incompatibility.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are grappling with the painful recognition that deep affection and genuine incompatibility can coexist in ways that threaten the relationship's sustainability.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Neurodivergence — lived experience?”

Peri

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