My teenage daughter and I are both perfectionists and it's creating this horrible cycle where my trying to help her with anxiety about grades makes her more anxious and then I get anxious about being a bad parent. We're both smart enough to see what's happening but somehow can't stop doing it to each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people sharing the same wound often cannot heal it alone because they lack the very capacity they're trying to develop together.
“Where Are You with DBT for emotional dysregulation?”
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