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Scenario

When perfectionist parents and teens trigger each other's anxiety

My teenage daughter and I are both perfectionists and it's creating this horrible cycle where my trying to help her with anxiety about grades makes her more anxious and then I get anxious about being a bad parent. We're both smart enough to see what's happening but somehow can't stop doing it to each other.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people sharing the same wound often cannot heal it alone because they lack the very capacity they're trying to develop together.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with DBT for emotional dysregulation?”

Peri

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