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Scenario

When perfectionist parents and teens compete instead of connect

My teenage daughter and I are both perfectionists and it's creating this weird dynamic where we're constantly trying to out-achieve each other while also being terrified of disappointing the other person. We can't seem to have a conversation about anything without it turning into some kind of performance evaluation and I think we're both exhausted by it but don't know how to stop.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A shared drive for excellence has become a source of mutual performance anxiety rather than genuine support.

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Patan
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