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Scenario

When perfectionist parents and children trigger each other's anxiety

My teenage daughter and I are both perfectionists and we've created this horrible dynamic where we're constantly triggering each other's need to be flawless — she sees my stress about work and it amplifies her academic anxiety, and watching her spiral makes my own control issues worse. We love each other but we're making each other sicker.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people sharing the same wound can inadvertently deepen it in each other rather than healing together.

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