Periagoge
Scenario

When parent and teen perfectionism creates a toxic cycle

My teenage daughter and I are both perfectionists and we've created this toxic cycle where my attempts to help her manage her stress about grades just make her feel more judged, and her defensive reactions trigger all my own fears about failure. We both want to break this pattern but every conversation about it becomes another example of the problem.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people with the same wound are trying to heal each other but keep reopening it instead.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

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Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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