My teenage daughter and I are both perfectionists and we've created this toxic cycle where my attempts to help her manage her stress about grades just make her feel more judged, and her defensive reactions trigger all my own fears about failure. We both want to break this pattern but every conversation about it becomes another example of the problem.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people with the same wound are trying to heal each other but keep reopening it instead.
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