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Scenario

When parent and child share the same difficult patterns

My teenage daughter and I both struggle with perfectionism and it's creating this awful dynamic where we trigger each other's worst tendencies. She sees me being hard on myself and I see her doing the same thing and we both feel responsible for the other person's pain but don't know how to break the cycle.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Inherited struggles create a mirror effect where each person's healing work becomes entangled with witnessing the other's pain.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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“Where Are You with Emotional regulation frameworks?”

Peri

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