My teenage daughter and I both struggle with perfectionist thinking and we're supposedly working on it together, but every conversation about 'being easier on ourselves' turns into us analyzing whether we're doing the self-compassion 'right' or just making excuses. She says I'm still being perfectionistic about fixing perfectionism and she's probably not wrong.
More people experience this than they realize.
A parent and child caught in parallel cognitive distortions find their attempts at mutual healing contaminated by the very patterns they're trying to address.
“Where Are You with Cognitive distortions — identification and change?”
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