My teenage daughter and I keep having the same fight about her phone usage but we both know it's really about trust and control and neither of us knows how to talk about what we're actually afraid of. We end up in these circular arguments where I feel like I'm failing as a parent and she feels like I don't see her as capable, and afterwards we both just retreat to our separate corners feeling misunderstood.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are fighting about surface issues because they cannot safely access or articulate their deeper fears about the relationship itself.
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