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Scenario

When parent and child protect each other from shared trauma and create distance

My teenage daughter and I used to be really close but since her dad and I divorced two years ago, we've both been trying so hard to be okay for each other that we never actually talk about what's really happening. Now there's this weird distance between us and I don't know how to bridge it without making things worse for her.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are discovering that trying to shield each other from pain can create more isolation than the original wound.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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Worth thinking about

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Peri

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