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Scenario

When couples pursue advanced degrees and judge each other's learning

My wife and I are both pursuing PhDs in different fields and we've started competing over who's 'really learning' versus who's just jumping through hoops for the degree. She thinks my research is too theoretical while I think she's gotten too focused on publications and networking, and we're both probably right and wrong and it's poisoning our ability to support each other through this.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people navigating parallel credentialing processes discover their different approaches to balancing institutional requirements with genuine learning create judgment and distance between them.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Credential vs. learning — the distinction that matters?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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