Periagoge
Scenario

When couples trigger each other's nafs patterns

My wife and I are both trying to work on our nafs but we keep getting caught in cycles where her anger triggers my pride and my withdrawal triggers her control issues and we can't seem to break out of it even though we both intellectually understand what's happening.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people committed to spiritual growth are discovering that intimate relationship can be the very arena where their ego-patterns become most activated and difficult to transcend.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Islamic psychology — nafs and spiritual wellbeing?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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