My wife and I are both trying to work on our nafs but we keep getting caught in cycles where her anger triggers my pride and my withdrawal triggers her control issues and we can't seem to break out of it even though we both intellectually understand what's happening.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people committed to spiritual growth are discovering that intimate relationship can be the very arena where their ego-patterns become most activated and difficult to transcend.
“Where Are You with Islamic psychology — nafs and spiritual wellbeing?”
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