My wife and I are trying to conceive and it's been two years of treatments and disappointments, and we've developed completely different coping mechanisms - she wants to talk about it constantly and research everything, I want to pretend it's not consuming our lives - and now we feel more like roommates managing a medical situation than partners supporting each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
Shared suffering does not automatically create intimacy; it requires the courage to stay curious about your partner's way of surviving the same pain.
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If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.