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Scenario

When couples over-optimize resilience practices together

My wife and I have been implementing all the resilience research we can find — exercise, meditation, social connection, meaning-making — but we're approaching it like a checklist and I think we're actually making ourselves more anxious about whether we're resilient enough. We're both high-achievers who are used to optimizing everything, but this feels different and we're not sure if we're building real capacity or just performing resilience for each other.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Partners are intellectually committed to resilience-building but their achievement-oriented approach may be undermining the very adaptability and ease they're trying to cultivate.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Resilience — the science and the practice?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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