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When couples can avoid conflict but can't repair from it

My wife and I have been in couples therapy for eight months and we've gotten better at not fighting but we still don't know how to repair after we do fight. We just go back to being polite to each other and pretend it didn't happen, which feels worse than the actual conflict.

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